Warning Signs
Recognizing the Problem
It can be hard to tell the difference between someone who drinks socially and someone who is struggling. Signs to look for include:
- Drinking more than intended or more frequently
- Canceling plans or becoming unreliable
- Only wanting to socialize where alcohol is available
- Making excuses for their behavior after drinking
- Taking risks they normally wouldn't
- Becoming defensive when drinking is mentioned
Why This Situation Is Difficult
Friendships don't come with the same obligations as family relationships. You may wonder whether it's your place to say something, or worry about being wrong.
You might also feel conflicted because you've shared drinking experiences together. Bringing up their substance use could feel hypocritical or judgmental.
These feelings are valid. But if you've noticed a pattern that concerns you, your instinct is probably right. A supportive conversation can make a real difference.
Guidance
How to Start the Conversation
Find a private, calm moment — not during a party or after they've been drinking. Keep it one-on-one.
Be direct but kind: "I've noticed some things that worry me, and I'm bringing it up because I care about you."
Listen more than you talk. Your goal isn't to diagnose or fix — it's to let them know you're there.
Share information about recovery support options that are private, virtual, and flexible. Let them know help is available when they're ready.
How We Help
How You Are Accountable Supports Recovery
Peer Recovery Coaching — They're matched with a certified coach who provides support outside the friend group — objective, experienced, and understanding.
Daily Breathalyzer Accountability — Daily testing reinforces recovery goals with structured accountability from home.
Remote Drug and Alcohol Testing — Flexible testing provides accountability without disrupting daily life.
Risk Reduction — Ongoing support helps reduce risks through accountability and encouragement at every stage.